When we think about infertility we often conjure up pictures in our minds of sad women who wear dark clothing and isolate themselves — never mingling with the rest of the world – forever burdened with the inability to have children.
The reality is those who walk amongst you putting on a brave face, who are leading the nation, who are protecting other people’s children, who are teaching other people’s children, who are entertainers, doctors, lawyers, nurses, teachers, your sister, your mother, your cousin, your best friend, your pastor, — even those you don’t like – many have one thing in common – they are amongst a group of women who are infertile.
These women are brave. These women have courage. These women are warriors – these women are tenacious!
|Not readily letting go of, giving up, or separated from an object that one holds, a position, or a principle: “a tenacious grip”.Not easily dispelled or discouraged; persisting in existence or in a course of action: “a tenacious legend”.|
They are our inspiration – they continue the trek through the jungle of infertility often with their heads held high. Many laugh because if they didn’t laugh they would cry. And yes, many of them cry – I know I did. There were some days I just didn’t feel like I could go on. But I looked to those around me – other infertile women who inspired me to fight the good fight – to be tenacious.
And through it all – we all have this one spirit of light that continue to propel us forwards. That spirit of light is called LOVE.
We love deeply. We are committed to having children – regardless of how we happened to become mothers. We love our family, we love our friends, we love our pets, we love our partners, if we have a higher power – we love that as well — we love our doctor who is trying to help us – if we used an egg donor, or needed the help with a gestational carrier we have a special place in our heart for them – we love other people’s children – we hope to love our jobs, and we try very hard to love our bodies even though our body has failed us in one way or another.
But we love – and we want to love even more – a child.
So – we are brimming over with tenacity – we look to those who inspire us – and above all we love.