The “I” in infertility can mean a lot of many things for many people but to me it meant isolation. Often I felt alone like I was not only walking this path alone but that I was the only person in the world who was infertile.
During my years in treatment I often heard things like “This doesn’t make sense, your hormone levels seem fine.” Or “You are what we call unexplained” Oh how I hated the word “unexplained” – I just wanted an answer.
But I never got a definitive answer until after my child was born (yes I did have a happy ending) and I received a diagnosis of diminished ovarian reserve and premature ovarian failure. It took a long time for the medical field to agree upon what my problem was and during my treatment and during the pregnancy of my son I continued to feel incredibly isolated.
It wasn’t until I found a handful of online support groups that I was able to reach out and actually have someone reach back out to me and validate me and my feelings. When I discovered there were others like myself I didn’t feel so quite alone – and the saying is true – power comes in numbers. The more women I met who were like me the stronger I felt.
The message for you today if you are reading this is you are not alone. Regardless of how isolated you feel, there are many many infertility support groups around the world – In Spain, China, Japan, Australia, the UK, Africa, Iran, Europe, South America, Canada as well as the USA – if you have a computer and can use a search engine (any will do) – just type in “Infertility Support” and wait for the results to appear.
And they will appear!
Don’t let yourself become isolated – don’t be that person, support is at the end of your fingertips.